10 Ong, Bergeman and Boker, ‘Resilience comes of age’, pp. 1777–804.
11 K. Britton, ‘Grief is part of life’, blog written for Positive Psychology News Daily, 26 May 2011, http://positivepsychologynews.com/news/kathrynbritton/2011052617816 (accessed 20 October 2015).
12 T. Ben-Shahar, ‘Five ways to become happier today’, recorded 23 September 2009, http://bigthink.com/videos/fivewaystobecomehappiertoday (accessed 23 February 2016).
13 E. O’Brien, personal communication, 10 November 2015.
14 G.A. Bonanno, The Other Side of Sadness: What the new science of bereavement tells us about life after loss, New York, NY: Basic Books, 2009, p. 30.
15 C. Wortman, ‘Positive emotions: Do they have a role in the grieving process?’ blog written for This Emotional Life, www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/blogs/positiveemotionsdotheyhaverolegrievingprocess (accessed 4 November 2015).
16 See www.griefsheart.com.
17 D. Charney, ‘Resilience: The science of mastering life’s greatest challenges’, online lecture for the Brain & Behavior Research Foundation, 9 July 2013, www.youtube.com/watch?v=AEWnTjgGVcw (accessed 26 February 2016).
18 D. Keltner and G.A. Bonanno, ‘A study of laughter and dissociation: Distinct correlates of laughter and smiling during bereavement’, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 1997, 73(4), pp. 687–702.
19 F. Bryant, ‘Savoring Beliefs Inventory (SBI): A scale for measuring beliefs about savoring’, Journal of Mental Health, 2003, 12(2), pp. 175–96.
Chapter 8
1 M. Stroebe and H. Schut, ‘The dual process model of coping with bereavement: Rationale and description’, Death Studies, 1999, 23(3), pp. 197–224.
2 Stroebe and Schut, p. 216.
3 C. Rushton, personal communication, 1 December 2015.
4 Stroebe and Schut, p. 216.
5 C. Wortman, personal communication, 19 January 2016.
6 C. Wortman, ‘Positive emotions: Do they have a role in the grieving process?’ blog written for This Emotional Life, www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/blogs/positiveemotionsdotheyhaverolegrievingprocess (accessed 4 November 2015).
7 Stroebe and Schut.
8 www.bbc.co.uk/radio4/features/desertislanddiscs/findacastaway
Chapter 9
1 K. Reivich and A. Shatté, The Resilience Factor: 7 keys to finding your inner strength and overcoming life’s hurdles, New York, NY: Broadway Books, 2002, p. 43.
2 S. Ahmad, A. Feder and E.J. Lee, ‘Earthquake impact in a remote South Asian population: Psychosocial factors and post-traumatic symptoms’, Journal of Traumatic Stress, 2010, 23(3), pp. 408–12.
3 www.1wildandpreciouslife.com/2015/03/theuniversallawofimpermanence/
4 Reivich and Shatté, p. 43.
5 C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed, London: Faber & Faber, 1961, p. 9.
6 J.S. Cheavens, D.B. Feldman and A. Gum, ‘Hope therapy in a community sample: A pilot investigation’, Social Indicators Research, 2006, 77(1), pp. 61–78.
7 J. Kabat-Zinn, ‘Mindfulness-based interventions in context: Past, present, and future’, Clinical Psychology: Science and practice, 2003, 10(2): pp. 144–56.
8 Kabat-Zinn.
9 J. Cacciatore and M. Flint, ‘ATTEND: Toward a mindfulnessbased bereavement care model’, Death Studies, 2012, 36(1): pp. 61–82.
Chapter 10
1 For a review of resilience research among children and youth, see A. Masten, ‘Global perspectives on resilience in children and youth’, Child Development, 2014, 85(1), pp. 6–20.
2 D. Charney, ‘Resilience: The science of mastering life’s greatest challenges’, online lecture for the Brain & Behavior Research Foundation, recorded 9 July 2013, www.youtube.com/watch?v=AEWnTjgGVcw (accessed 25 October 2015).
3 National Scientific Council on the Developing Child, ‘Supportive relationships and active-skill-building strengths: The foundations of resilience’, Working Paper 13, 2015.
4 Charney.
5 T.L. Bisconti, C.S. Bergeman and S.M. Boker, ‘Social support as a predictor of variability: An examination of the adjustment trajectories of recent widows’, Psychology and Aging, 2006, 21, pp. 590–9.
6 A. Schweitzer, The Light Within Us, New York, NY: Philosophical Library, 1959.
7 S. Fox, Creating a New Normal . . . After the death of a child, Bloomington, NY: iUniverse Inc., 2010.
8 S. Sandberg, Facebook post, 4 June 2015.
9 J. Gross, ‘Farewell to my daughter Kate, who died on Christmas day’, January 2015, www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/jan/10/farewelltomydaughterkatewhodiedonchristmasday (accessed 26 February 2016).
10 Interview with T. Attig from his website, www.griefsheart.com/tominterview.php (accessed 26 February 2016).
11 E. Kübler-Ross and D. Kessler, On Grief & Grieving: Finding the meaning of grief through the five stages of loss, New York, NY: Scribner, 2014, p. 66.
12 W.J. Worden, Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy: A handbook for the mental health professional, 3rd edn, New York, NY: Springer Publications, 2002.
13 R. Moran, ‘Just Say You Are Sorry’, 1999, originally published in The Compassionate Friend newsletter, Fort Lauderdale, FL.
14 T. Lawrence, Everything Doesn’t Happen For a Reason, blog post, 20 October 2015, see www.timjlawrence.com/blog/2015/10/19/everythingdoesnthappenforareason (accessed 23 February 2016).
Chapter 11
1 For a comprehensive list and access to these studies, see www.viacharacter.org/www/Research/CharacterResearchFindings.
2 N. Park, C. Peterson and M.E. Seligman, ‘Strengths of character and well-being’, Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, 2004, 23(5), pp. 603–19.
3 T.N. Alim, A. Feder, R.E. Graves et al., ‘Trauma, resilience, and recovery in a high-risk African-American population’, American Journal of Psychiatry, 2008, 165(12), pp. 1566–75.
4 E. O’Brien, personal communication, 10 November 2015.
6 D. Charney, ‘Resilience: The science of mastering life’s greatest challenges’, online lecture for the Brain & Behavior Research Foundation, 9 July 2013, www.youtube.com/watch?v=AEWnTjgGVcw (accessed 25 October 2015).
Chapter 12
1 T. Ben-Shahar, Choose the Life You Want: The mindful way to happiness, reprint edn, New York, NY: The Experiment, 2014; Happier: Learn the secrets to daily joy and lasting fulfillment, New York, NY: McGraw-Hill Professional, 2007; The Pursuit of Perfect: How to stop chasing perfection and start living a richer, happier life, New York, NY: McGraw-Hill, 2009.
2 For a short summary of the lifestyle habits that contribute to depression and a prescription for avoidance, watch S. Ilardi’s TED talk, www.youtube.com/watch?v=drv3BP0Fdi8 (accessed 26 February 2016).
3 T. Ben-Shahar, ‘Five Ways to Become Happier Today’, recorded 23 September 2009, http://bigthink.com/videos/fivewaystobecomehappiertoday (accessed 23 February 2016).
4 S. Ilardi, The Depression Cure, London: Vermillion, 2010, p. viii.
5 J.J. Ratey, Spark: The revolutionary new science of exercise and the brain, New York, NY: Little, Brown & Company, 2008.
6 Ilardi, p. 16.
7 Ilardi, p. 131.
8 J. Prochaska, C. Redding and K. Evers, ‘The transtheoretical model and stages of change’, in K. Glanz, F. Lewis and B. Rimer (eds), Health Behavior and Health Education, San Francisco, CA: Jossey-Bass, 1997, pp. 60–84.
9 J. Prochaska, J. Norcross and C. Diclemente, ‘Applying the stages of change’, Psychotherapy in Australia 2013, (19)2, p. 4.
10 E. O’Brien, personal communication, 10 November 2015.
Chapter 13
1 R. Neimeyer, The Lessons of Loss: A guide to coping, New York, NY: McGraw-Hill, 1998.
2 G.A. Bonanno, The Other Side of Sadness: What the new science of bereavement tells us about life after loss, New York, NY: Basic Books, 2009, p.
8.
3 T. Attig, How We Grieve: Relearning the world, rev. edn, New York, NY: Oxford University Press, 2011, p. xl.
4 C.G. Davis, S. Nolen-Hoeksema and J. Larson, ‘Making sense of loss and benefiting from the experience: Two construals of meaning’, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 72(2), pp. 561–74.
5 A. Assad, personal communication, 30 October 2015.
Chapter 14
1 Adapted from S. Sandberg’s Facebook post, 4 June 2015, www.facebook.com/sheryl/posts/10155617891025177:0 (accessed 12 October 2015).
2 M. Warrington, personal communication, 19 November 2015.
3 J. Kasper, ‘Co-destiny: A conceptual goal for parental bereavement and the call for a “positive turn” in the scientific study of the parental bereavement process’, Capstone thesis, University of Pennsylvania, 1 August 2013.
4 R.N. Remen MD, blog post, ‘Walking the Path’, 19 August 2015, www.rachelremen.com/walkingthepath/ (accessed 13 October 2015).
1 G.A. Bonanno, The Other Side of Sadness: What the new science of bereavement tells us about life after loss, New York, NY: Basic Books, 2009, p. 72.
2 T. Attig, How We Grieve: Relearning the world, rev. edn, New York, NY: Oxford University Press, 2011, p. 189.
3 For a comprehensive review of this literature, see B.L. Root and J.J. Exline, ‘The role of continuing bonds in coping with grief: Overview and future directions’, Death Studies, 2014, 38, pp. 1–8.
4 W.J. Worden, Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy: A handbook for the mental health professional, 3rd edn, New York, NY: Springer Publications, 2002, p. 50.
5 D. Quinlan, personal communication, 20 October 2015.
6 Bonanno, p. 73.
7 E. Kübler-Ross and D. Kessler, On Grief & Grieving: Finding the meaning of grief through the five stages of loss, New York, NY: Scribner, 2014, p. 61.
Chapter 16
1 M.E. Seligman, ‘Building resilience’, Harvard Business Review, 89(4), 2011, pp. 100–6.
2 M.E. Seligman, Flourish: A visionary new understanding of happiness and well-being, New York, NY: Free Press, 2011, pp. xii, 349.
3 J. Kasper, ‘Co-destiny: A conceptual goal for parental bereavement and the call for a “positive turn” in the scientific study of the parental bereavement process’, Capstone thesis, University of Pennsylvania, 1 August 2013.
4 R.G. Tedeschi and L.G. Calhoun, ‘Post-traumatic growth: Conceptual foundations and empirical evidence’, Psychological Inquiry, 2004, 15(1), pp. 1–18.
5 R.G. Tedeschi and L.G. Calhoun, ‘A clinical approach to post-traumatic growth’, in A. Linley and K.S. Joseph (eds), Positive Psychology in Practice, Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons, 2004.
Chapter 18
1 M.I. Norton and F. Gino, ‘Rituals alleviate grieving for loved ones, lovers, and lotteries’, Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, 2014, 143(1), pp. 266–72.
2 Norton and Gino, p. 267.
3 S. Wheeler-Roy and B.A. Amyot, Grief Counseling Resource Guide: A field manual, New York, NY: New York State Office of Mental Health, 2004.
Chapter 19
1 G. Norton, The Life and Loves of a He Devil: A memoir, London: Hodder & Stoughton, 2014, p. 287.