racism, 103–6
ratings success, 41, 44, 45–46, 47, 49, 52, 105, 130, 225, 246, 256
Real Housewives, 65, 90, 94
Reality Bites Back: The Troubling Truth About Guilty Pleasure TV (Pozner), 124–25
Reality Steve (Steve Carbone), 257–60
reality television. See also Bachelor franchise; why I’m a fan; specific reality shows
basking in afterglow, 219, 220
budding idea, 15, 24, 28, 29
under the covers (sex), 181
drafting a game plan, 100
fans of, 12, 76, 94–95, 112, 168, 183, 210
happily ever after, 248, 249, 256
reality of creating the fantasy, 35, 44, 46
road to the mansion (casting), 81, 87, 90, 92
roots of television romance, 55
reasons for being on Bachelor, 89–92, 93, 97, 125, 171, 192
reasons for watching Bachelor, 253–54, 263–65
recognition from Bachelor, 79, 93, 94, 246
recontextualizing scenes, 162
Rego, Justin (“Rated R”), 110, 165–66
Rehn (Sutter), Trista, 33, 37, 41, 45, 50–51, 52, 202, 203, 219, 275. See also Sutter, Ryan
rejecting proposals (Schefft), 195–96, 198, 200
relatability and trust, 146–47
Renfroe, Jay (producer), 70, 71, 72
Reno, Mike, 123
rescue dogs date, 133
Resort at Squaw Creek, 130–31
reunions requirements, 89
reviews/criticisms, 44–45, 46, 49, 51–52, 103, 124–25, 188, 264
“Ride Wit Me” (Nelly), 232
riding the coattails (income from), 225–44
Riggins (dog), 79, 264
Ringer, The (podcast), 256
rings, 4, 20, 45, 51, 76, 89, 113, 154, 155, 194, 199, 200–202, 252
Ritter, Jason, 223–24
Rivers, Joan, 264
road to the mansion (casting), 77–93
Robbie, Margot, 78
Roberts, Julia, 48
Robertson, Courtney, 151–52, 163–64, 206, 274
Robinson, Craig, 157–58, 216–18
Rockwell, Rick, 20, 21, 22, 23–24, 25, 85. See also Conger (Rockwell), Darva
Rodgers, Jordan, 276–77
role-reversal. See Bachelorette, The
roles defined by producers, 102–3, 123, 164, 165
Rolling Stone, 79
romance. See fairy-tale romance
Room Raiders (TV show), 73
roots of television romance, 55–74
Roper (Tolbert), Jade, 184, 185–86, 187, 228–29, 231, 232, 234. See also Tolbert, Tanner
Rose, Erica, 43, 101, 164
Rosenbaum, J. P., 202, 276. See also Hebert (Rosenbaum), Ashley
roses. See also Bachelor franchise
“After the Final Rose” (specials), 32, 54, 89, 90, 257
budding idea, 27
“first-impression rose,” 127–28, 160
Inside the Bubble strategy, 119, 127–28, 129
reality of creating the fantasy, 35, 37
rose ceremonies, 43, 44, 100, 110, 117, 128, 159, 161, 162, 234
Royal Pet Club, 188
Rutherford, Angelic, 117
Rycroft, Melissa, 90, 204, 219, 257, 273
Sacramento Union, 16
salary for star, 99
Salesforce, 92
Salon, 21
Sarah Lawrence, 250
Sasha (television host), 9, 10
Sawyer, Diane, 242
“Say Yes to the Dress” parties, 8
Scafaria, Lorene, 248
Scheer, Paul, 168–69
Schefft, Jen, 99, 139, 179, 195–96, 198, 200, 212–13, 271, 275
Schumer, Amy, 33–34
Seal, Mark, 48
Selden, Catherine (therapist), 83–84, 86
selfies, 11, 151, 229, 233–34
Selleck, Tom, 26
September 11 terrorist attacks, 263
“severe mental stress,” 88
Sex and the City (TV show), 196
sex pre-Fantasy Suite (Bristowe and Viall), 174–76, 177, 180
sexual exploitation, 44
sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), 84, 85, 88, 157
sex (under the covers), 171–82
Shapiro, Sarah Gertrude (producer), 248, 249–52, 253
shared interest, love based on, 193
Sheen, Charlie, 15, 124
SheLift, 233
shirtless Bachelor (Lowe), 102
Shocking Behavior Caught on Tape (special), 18–19
Shot of Love with Tila Tequila, A (TV show), 104
Shteamer, Casey, 150
Shutterfly, 235
Sideshow Bob (character), 150
Siegfried, Chris, 276. See also Hartsock (Siegfried), Desiree
Simply Dresses, 230
Simpsons, The (TV show), 150
Singer, Marty, 124
Singled Out (TV show), 66–69
“Singles in America” study (Fisher), 193–94
single vs. married, 264–65
Sirius XM radio, 68, 262
60 Minutes (TV show), 59
Slate, 174
“slow love,” 194
slut-shaming, 11, 180–81
Smoking Gun, The, 22
Snapchat, 228, 233, 260
Snatched (movie), 34, 227
social media, 87, 209, 221, 225, 228, 236, 256, 261, 263. See also specific social media
“Some Evidence for Heightened Sexual Attraction Under Conditions of High Anxiety” (Dutton and Aron), 134
Soules, Chris, 101, 140, 186, 226, 236, 237, 238, 241–42, 243, 244, 274
Spears, Britney, 76
Spelling, Aaron (producer), 18, 48
Spelling, Tori, 90
Spider-Man (Broadway show), 209
Splash (spa), 72
SponCon, 94, 225
sports and Bachelor franchise, 223
Sports Night (TV show), 183
Sprinkles, 233
Stanger, Patti, 245–46
Stanley, Alessandra, 46
Stanton, Amanda, 230, 232
Star, 196
Stern, Howard, 168, 262
Stone, Sarah, 272
Storify, 150
Stork, Travis Lane, 272
“strenuous physical activity,” 88
Stuart Weitzman, 52, 202
stylists, 100, 185, 186
successful relationships, 207–8
“suffused in romantic love,” 194
SugarBearHair, 225
Sugarfina, 261
Sunday Night Football (TV show), 21, 255
Survivor (TV shows), 30, 168
“Suspension Bridge Experiment,” 134
Sutter, Ryan, 33, 37, 41, 51, 52, 202, 203, 275. See also Rehn (Sutter), Trista
Swingers (movie), 33
Sycamore Tavern, L.A., 233, 234
tabloid stories, 84
Tacori, 52, 200, 202
Tatar, Maria, 190, 191
Tatum, Channing, 202
Taylor, James, 231, 232
tea lights, 12, 37
Telepictures Productions, 26, 27
Temptation Island (TV show), 28
“10 Times The Bachelor Shows Made Feminists Proud” (The Washington Post), 253
therapist. See Selden, Catherine
Thiessen, Tiffani, 48
Thompson, Mark, 22
Tierney (TV news editor), 9, 11
Tilley, Becca, 256
Tinder, 69, 262
“Tink-Tink Spot,” 117
Togetherness (TV show), 113
Tolbert, Tanner, 184, 228. See also Roper (Tolbert), Jade
Toronto Sun, 116
Total Divas (TV show), 94
Totally Hidden Video (TV show), 17–18
trade-outs, 129–31
Train, 187
Trainwreck (movie), 34
Trauger, Aleta, 104
Travolta, John, 124
trips (free) post-television, 228, 235
Trombetti, Susan, 237, 238–42, 243, 244
truth vs. lies, 224
Tumblr, 151
TVG, 30–31
Twitter/Tweets, 2, 3, 95, 105, 150, 151, 184, 212, 214, 215, 228, 242, 247, 248, 256–57, 258, 262
Two and a Half Men (TV show), 113
Uber, 242, 244
ultraviolet wands, 73
under the covers (sex), 171–82
“under-the-stars thing,” 10
Unglert, Dean, 225, 256
UnREAL (TV show), 36, 248–49, 252–53
UPN, 25
US Department of Justice, 91–92
Us Weekly, 116, 177, 212
Vachon, Christine, 250
validation from romance, 5, 34, 89–90, 195, 264
values, successful relationships, 208
Vanity Fair, 16, 17, 19, 20, 22, 27, 47, 48
Variety, 44, 253
Vaughn, Vince, 33
Veep (TV show), 169
Velvick, Byron, 272
Ventiera, Vinny, 182
ventral tegmental area of brain, 135
VH1, 104
Viall, Nick, 32, 34, 92–93, 127–28, 140, 174–75, 176, 180, 181, 219, 223–24, 233, 274
Vietnam, 57, 171
View, The (TV show), 196
Viewers for Quality Television, 21
viewing parties, 1, 53, 151, 247–48, 263, 264
Villaca, Bella, 229, 230
Villa de la Vina. See mansion
VIRGIN Bachelor. See Lowe, Sean
virgins and sex, 76
Vogue, 83, 254
Vorbeck, Alexandra (Fleiss’s first wife), 16, 40, 43, 48
voyeuristic quality, 112, 168, 169
WAGS (TV show), 94
Wahlberg, Donnie, 209–10
Wall, The (TV show), 68
Wallace, Mike, 59
Walt Disney Company, The, 186, 187, 189, 190, 242, 243
Warner Bros., 12, 26, 98, 124, 182, 259, 260
Washington Post, The, 45, 253
Watch What Happens Live (TV show), 65
wedding industry, 202–3, 234
Wedding Paper Divas, 234
Wedding Planner, The (movie), 189
weekly viewing parties, 1, 53, 151, 247–48, 263, 264
Weiss, Mindy, 202, 234, 235
West Wing, The (TV show), 130, 184
WE tv, 221
We Were Feminists Once (Zeisler), 176
Who Wants to Be a Millionaire? (TV show), 19, 183
Who Wants to Marry a Multi-Millionaire?: A Television Phenomenon (special), 22, 23
Who Wants to Marry a Multi-Millionaire? (special), 19–25, 26, 27, 31, 47. See also Bachelor, The (TV show)
“Why Feminists Are Unabashedly Obsessed with The Bachelor” (Vogue), 254
why I’m a fan. See also Bachelor franchise; Bachelor Nation; reality television
Allison Williams, 53–54
Amy Schumer, 33–34
Diablo Cody, 140–41
Donnie Wahlberg, 209–10
Heidi and Spencer Pratt, 94–95
Jason Ritter, 223–24
Joshua Malina, 183–84
Melanie Lynskey, 112–13
Nikki Glaser, 75–76
Patti Stanger, 245–46
Paul Scheer, 168–69
“Why We Fell in Love” (Us Weekly), 212
Wicked (Broadway show), 209
Wild Orchid, 69
William Morris, 19
Williams, Allison, 53–54, 248
Will You Accept This Podcast?, 256
“Will You Accept This Rose” Bento Box, 261
Wilson, Ann, 123
Wilson, Jennifer, 207, 272
Wire, The (TV show), 183
Witherspoon, Reese, 11
Womack, Brad, 53, 103, 115, 187, 198, 218, 273
“Women Tell All” (specials), 1, 32, 151–52
Wong, Andrea, 28
Woodstock, 57
Woolery, Chuck, 61–62, 64
World’s Deadliest Volcanoes (special), 18
World Series, 130
World’s Meanest People Caught on Tape, The (special), 18–19
World’s Scariest Police Shootouts (special), 18
Xanax, 171
Young Adult (movie), 141
Zeisler, Andi, 176, 254–55, 256
“zhuzh,” 36
Zimmer, Constance, 36
Zorn, Ben, 181
Zucker, Jeff, 28
About the Author
Amy Kaufman is a staff writer at the Los Angeles Times, where she has covered film, celebrity, and pop culture since 2009. On the beat, she reports from industry events like the Academy Awards, the Sundance Film Festival, and the Grammys. In addition to profiling hundreds of stars—Lady Gaga, Julia Roberts, Stevie Nicks, Jane Goodall—she has broken major investigative stories on sexual harassment in Hollywood. Amy currently lives in Los Angeles with her Australian shepherd, Riggins, and dreams of living in a Laurel Canyon tree house.
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